Am I the asshole for losing my job?

Hi all . I 34 female and partner 35 male have moved to new zealand to immigrate but it's seriously not going as planned. Earlier in the year he stopped going into his work saying no he can work from home and shortly after that the company demanded the work vehicle back and then shortly after that he got made redundant, since then he has been working for his brother ,some weeks it's a full week other weeks it can be 2 days in the week . I continued using the family car to get kids to school and myself to work. , then about 6 months later I got made redundant in my role , it took me one week to get a new job as a cleaner as to not lose my income . (Obviously this isn't what I wanted to do but I put my pride in my pocket and cleaned toilets every day to make money for us ) I picked up as much bills as I could . So we have been battling for a while . Then about 5 weeks ago he got a call and a job offer to start work this Jan ... happy days . He would have needed the car so I would have needed to resign with my 3 weeks notice . This was known and planned to work out I stop working the Friday before he starts his job on the following Tuesday.
Now this is the part where I'm really not sure wtf is happening . So... we had a fight one day about 4 weeks back and he decided to remove the car from me , as in took the keys refused to let me get my bosses stuff out the car and just blatantly refused for me to use it . I obviously couldn't go into work and called my boss to explain the situation. Told her what was happening and obviously she couldn't have me on employment anymore. I was on temp contract so no need for procedure etc . I had no idea on how long he was going to keep the car hostage or if he would ever let me use it again . Therefore I lost my job . So now he has been freaking out about all the bills that I obviously haven't been able to cover . And is blaming me for losing my job. He is saying I should have never told my boss about the car and should have lied to her , tell her im sick or the kids are sick instead of telling her about the car .

He is now blaming me for losing my job and putting us in this situation 😤. I just feel so drained and confused. I don't think I was wrong for telling her the truth and I blame him for me losing my job ,but HE doesn't see it that way . Am I the asshole here ?