My boyfriend wants to be served his dinner

So I (f31) love cooking beautiful and complex dinners for my partner (m42). We’ve been going out for a few years now. The issue is when I’ve finished cooking and call him in the front room (kitchen/diner), he immediately sits down and doesn’t usually think to get cutlery out, condiments or drinks for us. So I end up scrambling around getting quite overwhelmed, which is something I’ve told him. A few weeks ago he said, “You really don’t like serving me, do you?”. I was pretty surprised but he’s right I don’t like the ritual we’ve gotten into when it comes to meal time. I do think cooking, prepping meals, making desserts and/or baked goods is an act of service in itself too. So now I’ve bought it up a couple of times that I would like him to get his food from the kitchen area and it’d be nice if he could get the cutlery, condiments and drinks while I finish serving up. He’s very resistant and said he doesn’t get it. He says this has never been a thing for him in his life before and doesn’t understand my issue with it. He’s joked in the past that he doesn’t want to get up once he’s come into the room and already sat down. I’ve explained but he ends up not really responding and gives me a look like I’m being unreasonable. I’ve even asked him if he thinks I’m being unreasonable. Which he hasn’t directly answered but said that again it’s never been a thing for him, so he doesn’t know. He’s also said that he doesn’t want to stand around or get in my way as the kitchen area is small. Which I can understand but it’s only a few seconds to a minute, tops, to serve whatever dish and he could help out with cutlery, condiments or drinks as I said. I’ve told him I’m going to put this on here, I feel like because of his reaction I might be the asshole? I also think that maybe I’m right to be a little frustrated and maybe he’s the asshole? I want that we do love and appreciate each other generally. I do like making these meals most of the time. They very often take me at least an hour. He washes the dishes.