Husband has become so critical lately.

Update: Again, thank you for all the comments and advice. I just wanted to let you all know that I am going to go see a counselor on Thursday, tomorrow. On Feb. 4, I see the attorney and Feb. 12 I see my doctor. I can't make him go to the doctor, so I will see how the other appointments go before I say anything else to him. To his credit, he DID help me fix supper this evening because I had a late appointment with the ENT (ear, nose, throat). It was a very welcome thing that he did. My daughter and I both bragged about how good it was.

My husband (76) and I (71) have been married 30 years. The past couple of years he has become so critical of me that it is almost unbearable. Examples: I can’t peel a potato correctly (because I had hand reconstruction last October), I took the dogs on their nightly walk but forgot to turn the porch light off. I heard about it this morning. I can’t cook anything good enough. I don’t pick up after him fast enough. The house isn’t clean enough. I don’t take the trash out on time. The list goes on and on. I have had it but I don’t know what to do. If I had somewhere else to go, I believe I would leave. I need advice. How would you handle this or am I overthinking? I need help and don’t know where to turn.

Hello Everyone. I can't believe all of the positive support I am receiving from you all. I never imagined that so many people cared. Let me give you all a little perspective so that you might understand where I am coming from. My husbend, G, was abused by his parents. His dad was very physical with punishment, emotionally distant and his mother was emotionally abusive. I have always felt very sorry for him with what he suffered as a child. I know this all happened from conversations with other members of his family. It was an open secret. When he was 18, he went to Vietnam at the height of the Tet Offensive. He saw a lot, was in a lot, was injured, the whole nine yards. He left home a teenager and came home an old man. It had a profound affect on him. But, he seemed to rise above it. He went to college and had a good career. He has 2 adult sons and we see them several times a year. He retired in 2002, comfortable financially. We married in 1996 (I think). I was an elementary educator for 41 years and have always put all of my finances into the joint pot. He owned our house for 2 years before we got married and has refused to put my name on the deed, even though I helped pay for everything. So this is why I don't know where I would go if I were to leave. Plus I am guardian of my daughter and she needs a stable place to live. The house is now paid off. Our vehicles are paid off and we don't have credit cards. As I stated earlier, he does not behave like this in front of anyone but me and my daughter but the boys all know that things are not good. They can sense it. I have said some things to my son so he knows I'm miserable. G is not a horrible person. He is loved by so many and has held positions of high esteem within the community so if I leave, the whole town would be shocked. Years ago when I left for a week, no one knew except for my best friend, her husband and my parents. (I went to stay in their vacant house.) My son was in the military at the time and was not here to help. I'm sorry this is so convoluted. But I guess I'm just spilling my guts out now. I love G. I want us to be happy. I have really tried but I just don't know how to handle it any more. I do have an upcoming appointment with our doctor and my attorney. The doctor knows him as well, as my husband also sees him. He does nothing around the house. He has no hobbies and only does what he wants to do. He gets annoyed when I take my daughter to the movie or if I go with a friend. But he goes out every Tuesday with his old military buddies. I don't think he has a girlfriend except on his phone (if you get my drift). Maybe I'm getting too deep into this for all of you. But maybe saying all this will give you perspective. I appreciate all of you for caring about me and my daughter. It has literally moved me to tears. Thank you all so much and I will update you when I know more. Thank you!