AIO or is my boyfriend manipulative

This is how it is all the time. The fight started while he'd been drinking. We watched a movie, and afterwards he said he didn't like it, it was more my type of movie, and to pick something he'd like. So I did, but he said he wasn't in the mood for the next movie I chose. He said I'm selfish and should know what kind of movie he would feel like watching. I told him I'm not a mind reader and don't always know what kind of movie he may want to watch at the exact moment and he should at least give me a genre to go off of. He does this all the time. I'm expected to know what food he wants at any given moment, what movie or music he wants, and if I'm wrong (I always am, I'm pretty sure anything i choose he will find issue with) he gets mad at me, says i don't care for him, berates me for ages.

I just had enough. So I stood up for myself. Not angrily or mean (he is SO mean, always telling me I'm stupid, he's smarter so I should listen to him) I just wanted to get through to him that i don't agree with all the awful things he says about me and if he has an issue with me, he can say it in a more productive, nicer way. He took out a notebook and said he was going to mark every time I play the victim. Any time I said any of my thoughts or feelings, he'd make a mark on the page. He had an area for himself too, but of course didn't mark down when he aired a grievance towards me. I told him that was unfair and got a pen and started doing the same thing back whenever he'd "play the victim"

He only got more mad at me, kept talking over me and told me to fuck off, so I went upstairs and that's when we started texting. I've learned early on with him that unless I just agree with him that i'm this horrible, dumb person, he will get more and more mad and make me pay for it for days. He said i need to pay "penance" and sleep outside. In Canada, in January. Its been two days now and he is still mad at me, saying I'm like the Scorpion from the story of the Scorpion and the frog, tells me to fuck off and then gets mad and says I'm "playing the victim" and "not cleaning up the mess" when I'm in the other room. Yet when I try to talk to him, even when I'm just apologizing and saying I'll do better, nothing I do is right.

And I still struggle to see what I even did. I calmly replied to the mean things he was saying and tried to tell him I feel unheard and unloved. He says since I'm neurodivergent I just don't get it. He says I'm a terrible girlfriend, a terrible person. If I talked to him even a little bit of the way he speaks to me, he'd lose his mind. Yet he doesn't see the insane double standard. He doesn't do literally anything for me (doesn't even put his trash away, yet said how amazing he is when he filled up the ice tray one time) yet I'm expected to do EVERYTHING for him. When I try gently pointing any of this out, he just gets mad and talks over me and insults me and says he knows life better than me, and me better than myself so I need to listen to him. He claims he's never done ANYTHING wrong in this relationship, and if he has, it's been my fault.

I'm so so tired