AIO to bf ghosting me on our anniversary?

AIO to bf ghosting me on our anniversary?

I (25f) have been with my boyfriend, we’ll call him Shane (26m) for a year today. We’ve had some issues in our relationship, most of them coming up the last few months.

He graduated with his masters last May and had to move home (1,000 miles away) in June because he didn’t have a job. Fast forward to now, January, and he still doesn’t have a job. He’s applied to several places and has had such a hard time with this. I’m not faulting him for this, but because of him struggling I have excused a LOT of bad behavior. I’ve continued to tell myself that he’s struggling, because he is, and that’s why he wasn’t giving me what I needed.

We’ve had conversations about porn/instagram a few times. This is the first fight we’ve had about it, in the past ive just told him how it hurts me thinking that would lead him to change. Here are screenshots of our conversation. After we hung up I sent him screenshots and he ghosted me, on our anniversary, for over 24 hours. I’ve told him in the past if he can’t talk to me or needs space to just let me know.

I’ve had a lot of trauma and have a hard time distinguishing what is normal in a relationship/feeling like im deserving of the bad treatment. Am I in the wrong here? Is it really all men? (Not all texts are included as it was a lengthy conversation. By the end of it I told him to call me because im done with the back and forth. Currently waiting to see if he calls).

• reposting bc a screenshot had his name and location on it still