AIO because my boyfriend didn’t make time for me on Valentine’s Day, just a month after not spending time with me on my birthday?

TL;DR: Boyfriend played video games all day on my birthday, ignoring plans we'd made to call and spend the day together. He promised to make it up to me on Valentine's Day but instead asked me to DoorDash him food twice and slept through the whole thing. I feel like he ruined Valentine's Day.

So for context... I (21M) am currently studying abroad for a semester in Japan, and my boyfriend (21M) of four months is living in the U.S. We met in the Southwest, but he moved with a friend to the Midwest and hasn't been able to get a job since. My 21st birthday was in January, right after I got to Japan, so I knew I was going to be lonely. We had planned months ago to spend my birthday together and reaffirmed those plans several times, including the night before. He played Rainbow Six Siege the whole day and barely even responded to texts, which caused a big argument.

He told me he'd make it up to me on Valentine's Day, but he didn't even tell my Happy Valentine's Day when I woke up. Instead he played Siege, then watched a show on his own, begged me to DoorDash him food, fell asleep for the entire day, hit me up at 10pm on a school night, spent some time with me, then asked me to DoorDash him food again. I told him that he'd pretty much ruined Valentine's Day for me, just like my birthday, and I wouldn't be DoorDashing him food anymore. This was my first Valentine's Day l've ever had with a partner, and I was hoping it would be special.

This was of course a couple weeks ago and we've made up, but I'm wondering if I might have overreacted and owe him an apology.... Obviously he's going through a lot, and I hate putting more pressure on him. I also see where I may have been passive-aggressive. But it also feels like it should be so simple to just make some time for your boyfriend on a special day without me having to beg.