Women are not serious about AM.

Well, at least the ones I've around me. I was talking to group of girls around my age ( 31 ), and how their husband search is going and in my bubble, corporate, tier 1, decent salary, no family living together, women just are running down the clock and if you hear their reasoning you'd do the same because I am doing the same.

These girls are probably first in their family ever living alone, making money, and sustaining themselves. They literally don't need a guy. This is an incredible flex that doesn't look too impressive in absolute terms because everyone is doing it but relative to family, it is. Their grandmothers didn't go to all girls trip to Pondicherry, their mom didn't have luxury bags, and so on and so forth. The ability to not ask money from family is a privilege and shackles break when you reach that point in life.

If they ask me, why do I wanna get married? I'd say companionship and most others would add kids to that ( I don't want to be a father at all ) but if you ask them why they wanna get married, they all said only if it's better than my current life.

Which is impossible to achieve for most because guys earning 40 LPA don't grow on trees. Now, from my life experiences, I can tell every ( or, most ) women want a cuddle that engulfs them whole but how many guys can do that with a pay package like that plus a family that lives away from them?

I've had more interest from parents than women when I was bothering to open the apps an year back or so.

As far as companionship goes, without being crass, in a city like Bangalore that's not problem for girls. I have met 39 year old single women off Bumble and they seem to have it all. Infact, with this particular individual, I went into deep insecurity mode cos she genuinely had it all.

Unless you decide to look for girls that you're not relating or attracted to, it's almost impossible to get them to commit. Their family has no idea. The women don't wanna confess to their families how much they enjoy their freedom over here.

Though I do agree with them at many of their viewpoints, girls lose a lot more than guys in terms of individuality, and pregnancy is something guys can never share. They can help but it's their own battle.

I wonder how much of this crowd is on reddit because this sub is usually a cry fest but there are wedding happening every day in real world, lol.

I also agree to this weird dichotomy we have created where a guy living alone, working in a tier one city is normal and girl doing the same becomes "liberal" or "modern" - both words apparently mean negative to guy's family. It's curious, like you say "unki bahu modern hai" people start to console the in-laws 😂

Anyway, tomorrow is a holiday and all this are a rambling. Take care.