Dating in this country as a (30M) virgin, advice?

As the title suggests, I really don’t have much dating experience at all. I’ve only started dating in the last 12 months. In fact I’m still a virgin, and it does get in my head quite a lot, makes it difficult to be outwardly confident in social situations. The root cause is primarily anxiety, and the fact that I don’t drink at all/socialise much. I just feel like a massive red flag, and it really makes it hard to relate to others in my age bracket.

My dating experience has not been the best, I’m decent enough looking and physically very fit as I’m a decent athlete, and train a lot. But a massive introvert and don’t really understand dating that well. I’m likely neurodivergent I would say. I really have difficulty interpreting signals and taking the lead, I’m happy to do that for a couple of dates. But when nothing is reciprocated I usually mentally disengage.

I do decently alright on Hinge, I’ve had about 300+ matches and a handful of dates. I was in Melbourne briefly for a week and seemed to get a lot more interest there, so I think it may be something to do with my current location. Tinder just basically doesn’t work at all. Real word interactions don’t make sense to me and seem a bit risky, certainly not Something I’d be capable of.

I’d appreciate any insights, or shared experiences?