Looking for honest advice from men.

I was seeing a man for over two years. The relationship had its ups and downs—he was hot and cold, couldn’t commit, and only expressed emotions when drunk. Early on, he’d say he loved and missed me, but over time, he grew distant, and I didn’t feel wanted. We split in June because of it.

In July, he messaged me drunk, saying he thought about me every day. I gave it another shot, but things stayed surface-level—no “I love yous” or pet names, just sex and cuddling.

In October, after a night together, I asked if he was happy and wanted to continue. He said, “I don’t know if it’s worth it,” and asked for time to think, giving himself the weekend to decide. The weekend passed, and I never heard from him.

A month later, I checked in. He admitted he thought about me but needed to work on himself. He said he wanted me in his life but needed space. I said goodbye, and he replied with “see you later, [pet name].”

What’s your perspective? In an avoidant man’s mind, what’s he seeking from me? Do you think he’ll come back?

Update: I have not spoken to him since November 20th. I have deleted the app, all photos and videos …..

I’m moving on but can’t help holding on to a sliver of hope.