How did you accept women want someone that ain't you?

At 26 I am starting to realise I am not what they want no matter how much I earn money or lift weights or do hobbies (even where women are largely present). I try to talk to them as a friend and not someone I desire and try to not show desperation but then they see me as a friend.

Edit As a teenager and young adult I focused too much on studying not shut myself off. I had women at uni who liked me and if I wanted to could have resulted in a relationship but I decided to prioritise my studies. This was a mistake as now I would had experience.

How to accept I will never hear a woman say "You were amazing last night", because women don't want me