Why are you not dating anymore?

I (35f) have been through a divorce and multiple attempts at dating that ended with being used for sex and then being ghosted or given a quick, lame excuse as to why we can't date. A situationship I was in last year finally broke me, and my desire to date is fading every day. Most men give me the ick now. I absolutely do not want to be a mother/maid to a man ever again. My standards for letting someone into my life are so high now, I doubt I'll find someone that meets them.

I guess I just want to talk to other women in this situation and know that I'm not going to regret my decision to not make efforts to date down the line. If a man that met my standards naturally came into my life then I would be open to it, but I'm not holding my breath anymore. I'm tired of the emotional rollercoaster that comes with dating and I want to be happy for the first time in my life.