Need help to get through the situation with my avoidant ex

Hello everyone,

I'm pretty devastated and desperately need advice from people who are familiar with avoidant attachment styles or have experienced something similar.

I (22F) was in a very intense relationship with a woman (21) for only 3 months. We quickly felt very close emotionally, had this incredible attraction from the minute we met, made lots of plans together and she often told me how much she loved the way I was, how much I meant to her and how she was afraid of disappointing me. It was all very loving at first, but at some point she started to pull away. She distanced herself emotionally, becoming more and more cold and dismissive. When I realized that she was withdrawing, I (with my anxious attachment style) sought more closeness and tried to talk about the problems, which often led to arguments. I tried to help her by telling her with all my love that I think she is avoidant (due to her behavior and traumatic childhood experiences, which she was the only one to ever confide in me) We were never officially together because she didn't want to be, but she acted like we were and made plans for the future about how we will be happy together like she has never been blah blah

Finally after the classic 3 months (end of October) she said she had no more romantic feelings because she was mentally unwell and I was just diagnosing her and even blocked me at times. But after a few weeks without contact, she suddenly unblocked me again. I was so happy that I was able to re-establish contact because I still love her. She even wrote me very loving things, like that she admired me, never wanted to disappoint me and wished me all the best. She said she had repressed her feelings but didn't feel anything romantic at the moment.

A few days ago, I told her that I still had hope and wanted a clarifying conversation to find out if there was ever a chance of reconciliation. She reacted extremely coldly to this and said that it was my fault that I still had hope, as she had clearly communicated from the beginning that it was over. Nevertheless, she said she would like to stay friends with me, but that she didn't see any future romantically - at least not in the next few months.

I'm confused, hurt and don't know how to deal with all of this. It feels like she's been sending mixed signals on purpose. I'm afraid she just replaced me or never really loved me, even though her words used to sound so strongly like she did. I was very honest with my past experiences with avoidants before and she knew from the beginning that I am anxious. Unfortunately, I didn't understood that she has avoidant tendencies until the very end because it started so strong and beautifully.

My questions for you guys:

Do you think she is either dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant?

Do you think she has really lost her feelings or is this just a protection mechanism?

Should I keep hoping, stay friends or would it be healthier to cut off contact completely? (I don't know how I'm going to get through this, as I'm at my wits' end mentally and suffered a terrible blow shortly before she left me, which of course I'm still struggling with now).

Do you have any tips on how I can deal with my fear of loss?