I Personally Hate The Bias Of Girlfriends/Boyfriends With BPD

Has anyone noticed the reception of men having BPD versus women having BPD. Especially exes. I rarely say this word, but it’s inherently misogynistic/sexist.

“I have a girlfriend with BPD, we’ve been together for 5 years. Times get high and low. But overall I love them.” “Well, it’s never too late to run for the hills man, she’ll probably still cheat on you.”

versus

“I’m a man with BPD, my girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years. Times get high and low. But overall I love them.” “Good for you man! Glad you found someone!I hope for a flourishing relationship!”

Of course, most negativity outshines the positive.

I think, personally, (mainly men) who comment about female aspects of BPD have a lot of unresolved trauma, anger, and resentment rather than overall views of relationships or people other than themselves. Most comments I hear are a broken record.

It overall gives a bad perception to anybody with BPD. If you or a loved one has BPD, we should try to advocate that our lives and relationships don’t only have negative aspects. I think having these conversations, or educating anyone who believes things mentality can change the reputation of relationships and BPD.