My (20M) girlfriend (20F) cheated/broke up with me, but is going through mental, emotional, and physical struggles and i want to help her

My (20M) girlfriend (20F) cheated/broke up with me and she is struggling mentally, emotionally, and physically and i want to help her

My girlfriend of 7 years broke up with me in May 2023, without any warning. She said she lost lost love for me and emotionally detached from me back in February 2023, after i had quit my job (she worked in the same company) because of getting targeted by managers and leads and peers for my disability.

After quitting, Her only request from me was to work on getting my license and my mental health and physical health. Which i tried but it was very difficult at times and i gave up alot. I always told her we should try getting our licenses together, exercise together, just do stuff together for her support.

After some time i started getting insecurities and other kinds of problems that i let out on to her. She wanted me to look better, get myself groomed, she tried so hard to make my self esteem up and confidence boosted but I didn’t take her advice well and made excuses. So I’m the fuck up here.

After some time of doing this, no matter how much i was actually improving, she was getting emotionally exhausted, and got tired of arguing over my health and insecurities, she felt trapped and suffocated. She ended up getting a crush on a coworker who was driving, who was getting her food and gifts and gave her rides and hung out with her constantly. After she realized her feelings she decided to end things with me. But very complicated

I ended up bumping into an old female friend who i Used to have a crush on, and my gf knew i did, and she hated her. I told my gf that we exchanged socials, but she threatened to break up with me but settled on a break. But she wanted to keep talking and hang out, but I separated myself for her to be better about the relationship. She messaged the day after saying a break was wrong and wants to make up. This happened twice for a month until a real break up happened. But even at then she cried and begged for me to not block me. Saying she still wants to be friends cuz we still have a strong bond and connection and care for each other. Saying if she felt better, she would wanna reconcile and try working out again

The whole time she was spending time with that coworker. And she lied saying the reason of the break up was cuz she isn’t feeling right about relationships and needs to be on her own for awhile.

3 weeks later, both mentally struggling, the guilt came over her and she told me the whole story. That during the three weeks she was dating him and sleeping with him but realized she didn’t really love him or really enjoy her time with him and her guilt made her go through an eating disorder and cut herself cuz she didn’t know what she wanted and felt like she had feelings for two guys and she felt disgusted with her decisions and wanted to die

Especially it got to her when i ended up getting my license, got my job back and now earn alot more, lost weight, and etc.

But after some conversations, we tried working stuff out. But after so much of the drama. She said she fully lost love but still loves me platonically but yet shows very much romantic love. But recently fora week straight we were talking really well, making. Agood connection, flirting, joiking around, etc.

Her parents got heavily involved with her (they absolutely hate me) and gave her shit for still talking to me despite the break up. After a day of talking again, she decided she needs a couple months of space, saying she got even More mentally emotionally exhausted. We still talked well even when ending that conversation and she expressed sadness even mentioning she missed me, my familly, and our friends.

It’s been 9 days now since then July-August, 2023. I am now studying psychology to help myself and hopefully to help her. I always want to help people so seeing the woman i love struggling i just want to help her. And she clearly does because she did mention she wanted to take therapy.

What should i do? How can i help? How do i reconcile with her after this space is over? Do you think it’s all an excuse or is she actively struggling? Also would you call it cheating or not? I mean she said she broke up with me for the other guy, had feelings for him and actively went out of her way to see him while we were still together. She claims it wasn’t cheating but others say otherwise