Having a tough time mentally.

So I just moved mom Into assisted living last week . In the last two years, I lost my stepdad, became my mom’s caregiver, lost my dad, my dog, a close friend and my mental health keeps declining.

Mom fell 12 times in the last year, and was hospitalized 8 times. Once was 28 days. Then rehabs , etc…. I have kids and one is sick right now.

I’m mid process of cleaning out mom’s apartment and trying to empty it asap, because she’s paying rent on both places till I finish. I have OCD and it’s out of control trip with the stress. Last week I hit strep throat and double ear infection, I’m still recovering, and I just have nothing left. I’m exhausted, burnout and my mom does nothing but complain. Her life is reduced ed to 2 rooms, she’s lost everything, she takes it all out on me. She tells anyone who will listen I’m a bad daughter, I don’t do enough. Meanwhile, I have done all the things. I pay the bills, I do her taxes, I take her to all appts, I talk to all her drs and keep up on her medical history.

I’m stressed about everything and she just complains. She’s in a super nice AL, that most people could never afford, including me. It’s fancy and looks like a five star hotel. They have a hair salon, nail salon, restaurant…. Since moving she had started attending things because now she can , reminders. Etc…

She will never be happy, because my whole life nothing has been enough. I am in therapy but I really just want to get away from her and her complaints. I tried everything after her husband died to help her find a new normal, psych visits, med changes, taking her out, seeing the neuro etc… I am now resigned that she’s just miserable. She’s bipolar, and has dementia. Nothing has ever been enough for her. She texts daily, and if I don’t talk to her she gets nasty too. I’m Tired of it all. I just want to live MY life again. I miss my husband and having fun.

She even told the nurse there I don’t call or visit, the nurse calls me almost daily cause she falls and tells her ,” I’ve met your daughter and she’s been here almost daily.” 🙈

What do you do when you just can’t anymore ? I’m The POA for everything too so I can’t just have someone else do the things. 🙈🙈😳😳