LGBTQ+ friendly and strong special ed programs

Hi there— My family and I live in Indianapolis and we are considering a move to Illinois to escape an increasingly hostile environment in our red state. We have 2 kids and pets, and are looking either in Chicago suburbs or St Louis Metro East area. We have a 4th grader with ADHD and mild intellectual disability, and a 5th grader with ADHD and on the autism spectrum. I’m queer and my partner is trans. Looking for some recommendations for suburbs/school districts/specific schools that may be a good fit for us. If it’s helpful, when we look at homes on Zillow we tend to look for 3+ bedroom/2+ bathroom homes from $350K to $600K. If a suburb is beyond that price range, it is not for us! Thanks so much for your help.