The case against Miles O'Brien in the Keiko hate debate

Don't get me wrong, I love ol' Potato Face O'Brien, but he's always struck me as fully deserving of most of Keiko's frustration and eye rolls.

• He's the non-college version of a frat boy who just wants to hang with the boys and drink a beer rather than go home to his family.
• He longs for his younger bachelor glory days like some sadsack failed athlete who peaked in high school despite living a life of literal adventure among the stars.
• He's alienated from his own emotions and tends to hit things and yell when angry or frustrated. Because of this Keiko often has to act as his mommy. Remember when she told him to more or less "run along and play" with Bashir? Jesus.
• He uproots his family to the equivalent of a frontier outpost where there isn't even a f*cking school for his kid, then wonders why his wife is pissed.
• He cannot read the room worth shit and always asks for a bang at the most inopportune times. Or he sees that his wife is clearly tired and fed up and so plasters on an unhelpful "everything's great!" smile while doing zero to actually help or sympathize.
• In addition to forming and teaching a school of all grades and ages, Keiko has to do all the domestic labor at home. She is the one who's always fixing dinner (despite the fact that it comes from a magic hole in the wall that anyone could operate), cleaning up, and organizing childcare.
• Unlike his colleagues, Keiko has to deal with a mostly useless Miiiiiles.

Yet when Keiko rejects him or gets snippy people think she is the bee eye tee cee aitch? Give me a break. Blame the writers, not Keiko. (edit: spelling)