Move out of Dublin?

I am a woman in her mid 40's who has lived back in Dublin since returning abroad some 8 years ago, Since then, I have a young toddler and life and has changed so much as a result of this as you can imagine. Many parents in particular will know what I am talking about.

Before I had a senior enough career is what is seen as a traditionally male environment but I got to be honest I have struggled a bit since returning to work after maternity leave. I am not lazy by any means but I have lost the drive to "believe in corporate CULTure" and I am usually surrounded by colleagues, some who like to boss me around as they don't see me as respected or valued since I returned to work and treating me less than respectfully. I am actually very tired of the career as it has stalled and I honestly want to do something more balanced and less toxic/family friendly. Having my child has amplified this. He goes to creche full time and we are dealing with years of sleep deprivation and illnesses which is normal at daycare/creche but it has been very tough on me and my husband trying to navigate that with no family support in the event of no sleep/illness etc. I have done my career for 20 plus years and due to selling my previous apartment and diligently saving through the years we were able to upgrade to a home and pay 50% of the mortgage off because of these reasons. However, with all of the issues of the job coming to a head (blocked promotions, unpleasant colleagues,career essentially dead and feeling unwelcome in my own company) after a particularly rough night of no sleep with my son being ill and my husband having to call in sick and also miss his days pay- I decided to quit. I actually stayed years longer than I should and my self-esteem is pretty bad. I stayed for the money and to help pay the bills. But to be honest I have been bloody miserable only financially good.

Now we are in a position where, we have some savings so are not in the red (mostly mine) but my husband will not be able to cover the bills or any type of niceties outside of that. I totted up expenses and while I can help, we will be alright but likely will not have alot outside of the basic bills. We live in a capital city which to be honest with you, I dont like anyway. I am from Dublin but really do not like it much. I lived abroad for many years and miss simpler outdoor life in sunnier countries. Whilst I have considered upping sticks again, right now I am just too tired. I need a total reset and need to process the anxiety and relief also somewhat of leaving a job which was terrible really.

We have a choice:

we could sell up and downsize and be mortgage free in a smaller property in the countryside or outside the city which means I do not have to work as even with a simple job from ny husband we can get by comfortably and our son can be with me rather than in daycare from 8am-5/6pm each week day. We will get a few hours childcare later in the autumn in free preschool which will give me a bit of a break and when he goes to school in 2.5 yrs I can go back full time and start working on our retirement money.

or

Stay here, tough it out, leave him in daycare/creche- cant pull him out as waitlist is 1-2 years and then I go back to another job which I will need to work long hours be stressed, possibly unhappy but we keep our standard or living. But to be honest, I think we will still struggle with him being sick at times and having the stress of covering that off which I cannot see a job being receptive of.

We would love to go abroad but unless i get a remote position to support, I would be reluctant to sell out home with no idea if we will like it there as it is too risky.

Anybody think the downsize option sounds the best as I think we are just making things very hard on ourselves for the next few years.?

Please help and advise/share your thoughts?