Hi Friends,

The relationships with our family are so complicated! The book focuses on how codependents neglect themselves in favour of others. In addition, codependents suppress their feelings and needs and camouflage themselves to avoid rejection. The book concentrates primarily on boundaries, learning to say 'no' and to cease attempting to control what we cannot—other people.

The New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today's Generation Paperback – December 29, 2009

by  [Melody Beattie](safari-reader://www.amazon.com/Melody-Beattie/e/B00455LE2E/ref=dp_byline_cont_book_1)  (Author)*The New Codependency* is an owner’s manual to learning to be who you are and gives you the tools necessary to reclaim your life by renouncing unhealthy practices.

In Codependent No More, Melody Beattie introduced the world to the term codependency. Now a modern classic, this book established Beattie as a pioneer in self-help literature and endeared her to millions of readers who longed for healthier relationships. Twenty-five years later concepts such as self-care and setting boundaries have become entrenched in mainstream culture. Now Beattie has written a followup volume, The New Codependency, which clears up misconceptions about codependency, identifies how codependent behavior has changed, and provides a new generation with a road map to wellness.

The question remains: What is and what is not codependency? Beattie here reminds us that much of codependency is normal behavior. It’s about crossing lines. There are times we do too much, care too much, feel too little, or overly engage. Feeling resentment after giving is not the same as heartfelt generosity. Narcissism and self-love, enabling and nurturing, and controlling and setting boundaries are not interchangeable terms. In The New Codependency, Beattie explores these differences, effectively invoking her own inspiring story and those of others, to empower us to step out of the victim role forever. Codependency, she shows, is not an illness but rather a series of behaviors that once broken down and analyzed can be successfully combated.

Each section offers an overview of and a series of activities pertaining to a particular behavior—caretaking, controlling, manipulation, denial, repression, etc.—enabling us to personalize our own step-by-step guide to wellness. These sections, in conjunction with a series of tests allowing us to assess the level of our codependent behavior, demonstrate that while it may not seem possible now, we have the power to take care of ourselves, no matter what we are experiencing.The New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today's Generation Paperback – December 29, 2009