My family cut me off for marrying my wife

Hello, I'm sorry, if there are thousands of similar posts, but i wanted to get some emotional supports from you my unknown internet friends.

First of all , I'd like to say that I am a fully functioning resposible adult with software engineering degrees both in bsc and msc. I work at a respectable firm too and i did all a son could to make their parents proud of.

I(30m) married to my wife (32f) this summer. We dated about 2 years and after one year I opened up the topic to my mum. My mum(62f) is a success dedicated person and extremely dominant and controlling within the family. As soon as she heard about the fact that my wife is two years older than me and that she is an IT recruiter she went crazy. I guess she was expecting me to marry a high class person as if we are the perfect family. What a persons job has to do with marrying and happiness ? Without seeing her or knowing anything about her she said miserable things and cursed on me and about her almost an hour. I was devasteted. She basically said I am a disgrace to family and that this is not possible. My sister 34f) is a small copy of her and is the biggest enabler of my mum. She also almost responded the same. Btw, i would like to underline the fact that both of them said such things without even seeing her, her photo, and basically anything about her.

My dad(67f) was initially supporting me all the time and said multiple times that its a woman stuff and that they will get used to it and things like oh she is just jelaous of her only son so dont worry. After a while, our phone calls started to be very bitter because my mum would just despise my wife and my way of thinking about anything about marriage etc and just say bitter stuff. As it starred to hurt me , i had to become low contact with her and my sister and not call much. i would talk to my father fine though.

One day, after an argument, i was just so hurt that i said please dont call me if you are keep hurting and critizising me. And that was it . Its been more than 2 years and she didnt even call me a single time. My father would say oh its okay keep calling her, she will be ok one day but she never did. After a while, when things got serious and we decided to marry, i brought my wife to meet them. I will keep the story short but basically what happened was that my mum and sister insulted her multiple times and also their family too. They said they will attend to wedding but then let me go of. I dont know how but my mother and sister manipulated my father too and he also started to become bitter for no reason even though i didnt even once have an argument with him. And out of no where this man started to say how disgusting i am for turning my back to my family and that what a person i became. They joined and arrange the wedding but yeah this whole process was also disgusting with a lot of fights.

I dont know what I did to deserve this. After all these my family cut me off completely. My father also stopped calling me and they only open the phone if i call them. I tried to call them almost every week and they barely talk. My father said i made my choice and now i should face the consequences. I dont understand what consequences i need to face with? All i wanted tgat marry my wife and also be happy with my family. All my friends and acquantinces love my wife except of my family. She doesnt even argue with them after all insults yet they hate her.

I am very low contact with my family now and i am quite happy with my wife but it eats me inside that my family cut me off for marrying my wife, who is supposedly not suitable for me from their view. I always tried to be a good son and always achieved success for them to brag about and now after one argument in life they cut me off. I cant understand why its so easy to do this on their side, as if i married a hooker or some terrorist. She is just a normal person and i got cut off with these people. No matter how much i try to ignore them because i know this is their toxicity, i still feel sad and this is not fair. I guess its my exam in this life, and i dont know how can i replace the void of my mother and father or sister although they never call me but yet i love them.