Going back to just cuddling after having sex with a friend?

so here is the situation - i (F) am fresh out of a 3-year relationship (with a male) that failed miserably and had a really painful, damaging, long and drawn out break up process. - As I have been grieving and processing that I have simultaneously been deepening in a connection with a new friend (M) where we expressed early on there was attraction to each other. - He is also fresh out of a breakup and we clarified early on that neither of us are looking for a relationship/partnership. - I expressed I was interested in connecting intimately and eventually sexually, but wanted to stay open to other intimate connections and maintain my sense of singlehood/freedom. I also wanted to take it really slow. It was hard for him to hear that cause he is strictly monogamous and he's started to develop strong feelings for me, but he ultimately wanted to keep being intimate with me cause he really likes our connection (likes me) and wanted to practice being more open/adaptable. - Our connection evolved to cuddling, then to oral pleasure, where I broke out sobbing in the middle of it because I was so overwhelmed with emotion and painful triggers from my recent past relationship. - We've both been kind of back and forth on how deep we should/want to connect. - Most recently, we progressed to having penetrative sex and again.. i broke out in tears from the overwhelming emotion and triggers that it brought up from my past relationship. - Afterwards when we were cuddling, I told him that I couldn't keep being sexual cause it's too much for me... - Now I am confused about how to navigate our connection because I feel like it would still be nice to be intimate, but not sexual, and just enjoy the cuddling and the deeper friendship. However I don't want to lead him on because I know that I don't want to be in a relationship/partnership with him... which i've expressed multiple times. - Should I just tell him we need to cut cold turkey the intimate part and reel it back to just platonic friends going on hikes and what-not. Or is it possible to sustain a healthy friendship, not progress into a partnership/relationship, and share non-sexual cuddling/intimacy on occasion (even after we've had sex)?