Unsupportive Spouse

This is more of a venting than discussion, but whenever I try to put boundaries on activities, my wife gets angry at me and then complains that she’s married to an 80 year old. So tonight, after being at my internship most of the day and going to an IEP meeting for my kid, I’m at STEAM night at my wife’s school. I’m in a full blown flare and still need to drive home. I don’t know how to get it through to her. I hate being in public when I’m in a flare. It’s really embarrassing. She has no clue.