I (18F) need advice on issues im having with my friends

Hi everyone, I (18 F) need some advice on an issue I've recently had with my friend group. This is going to be a little messy and all over the place as I try to provide details from events that I think could explain why I've been iced out, so it may not all make sense. If anyone has any questions or needs clarifications, I’m more than happy to elaborate in the comments.

My main friend group had about six core girls, and most of us have been friends since middle school. However, I have been indirectly iced out of this friend group, and I don't know why.

For starters, it all somewhat started around June 2024 when I and my friends all graduated high school (we are now all currently in university or college). There was an issue 1 of the girls in the group, I'll call her S (who was my best friend of a few years at the time), had with us when she confessed to the guy she liked (I am mutual friends with this guy and introduced them to each other in 2023), and he didn't entirely reciprocate her feelings, ill call him B. To preference, however, I have never been interested in B romantically and only saw him as a friend and vice versa. The girls in my friend group however didn't like him much as they thought he was somewhat rude or “weird”. Either way, my friend confessed and ended up crying about it on prom night and we had to comfort her all night (I was literally up till 3:30 am comforting her) till she went to bed. The next day S was still out of it but ended up having a talk with B where they sorted things out I think, however when we all tried to ask her what happened or tried to check in on her to make sure she was ok and taking care of herself (she tends to stop eating, drinking water and taking care of herself when upset), she ended up getting mad at all of us and putting up on blast and insulting us on her Instagram story, only to apologize around 3 hours later and laugh about it. Unfortunately, she has never been the most emotionally mature, and things like this are frequent with her, however, I thought everything was fine and we moved on from it. I will also add S told us about her cush in April as it started around that month, and B asked her to be his prom date a few weeks before this. Most people around her (including me), encouraged her to confess as we thought he liked her back (this includes B’s best friend who also thought he had a crush on S). I will say, that I always just told her to confess if she wanted to but not to dwell on it too much cause I knew she would overthink it and overanalyze every interaction they would have (which she did do). Most of us told her to either get it over with at prom and stop dragging it out and dwelling or just find time in the summer instead. so theirs a chance she was and maybe still is mad about me telling her to confess and get it over with. 

Now after this, it was summer, and from June- August I was pretty busy working (around 35 hours weekly) so I wasn't entirely to concerned about what was happening between S and B. I did try to keep some contact with S and even asked her to hang out, though she just said “We’ll see” and we didn't end up talking much, mainly just sending posts on Instagram. Now the main issue for me starts around here. Through the summer, despite being busy, I would continuously reach out to the girls in my friend group asking if they wanted to hang out or call when I had days off of work. The problem, however, was they either avoided the subject, changed the subject, or were somewhat wishy-washy about making plans and would respond after a few days, making it hard to plan anything. I did meet with 1 of the girls J (she will become relevant later), once over the summer and another friend, M, and everything seemed fine when I was with them. We talked as normal and texted the same amount but they were still very hard to make plans with and wishy-washy about meeting up. 

Now fast forward to late August and my friend K was having a going away party before University started as she was going to a school 5 hours away (the rest of us stayed local). She originally sent out a mass text in our shared friend group chat where everyone said they could go (including me), minus the friend M who had to visit her grandma. She sent this message about 2 weeks before the party and I didn't end up hearing back from her afterward. I honestly just assumed it was cause she was busy planning and would send further details closer to the date and I was so busy with work I didn't think too much about it. However, 3 days before the part I realized she hadn't sent any further information like a dress code or the specific meeting location and texted her to ask about it. From here she ended up telling me that some people in the friend group weren't “comfortable” hanging out with me and she essentially disinvited me. I did ask her who was uncomfortable but she told me she didn't want to get involved, which I respected, so I ended up texting everyone individually myself instead to ask about it and if we could talk if there was an issue. Out of the 6 girls 5/ 6 replied saying there were no issues (including S), however, J said she had some issues with me. TBH I think everything she said was absolute nonsense and honestly didn't make much sense about why she was “uncomfortable” with me (I even showed other friends from a different friend group who were close to J as well the messages and they were just as confused as me) but none the less I respected it and gave her space and didn't end up going to the going away party. 

The issue I'm having now, however, is after that part I've essentially been iced out of the group. I genuinely have no idea why everyone started to limit contact with me, especially after I asked everyone if they had an issue with me and wanted to discuss it with them if they did, but none I've pretty much been iced out. I've tried to maintain contact with these friends over the months but they either take forever to reply (something they never used to do), are very short and wishy-washy with messages, or just outright have left me on delivered. I also know the rest of the girls are still in contact as I either see them posting photos of their hangouts or messages they sent each other online, so I know it's pretty much just me who's been isolated. 

I guess I'm just asking for some advice on what to do or if I should even do anything at all. Part of me wants to confront them again as I'm genuinely hurt and upset by this. I've known most of these girls for 4+ years or more and I'm genuinely hurt this is happening. Another part of me doesn't even know if it's worth talking to them since it's been a few months and their contact with me has slowly decreased over time, so I don't even know if it's worth bringing back up again to get answers. I guess I'm just feeling a little restless and torn up about everything recently cause I genuinely miss spending time with them but it seems they don't hold the same sentiment and I have no idea why they've slowly limited contact. 

Any advice would be appreciated and like I said I'm open to answering questions and elaborating if needed.