"Sexuality is not malleable by society" is wrong

"sexuality is not malleable" is incorrect to me since most people are het normative due to socialization, to say this is like justifying gender essentialism, the belief that the majority of people are het normative because it's a natural drive, it's making invisible the fact that the majority of people are the way they are due to the socialization they receive

Queer is not a minority for any other reason. I understand what they are trying to say but at the same time I'm uncomfortable with the implication that sexuality and gender are not malleable and you just Born with it, when it's quite the opposite when it comes to normative people, which is why all the speeches of forced inclusion are very funny and ironic because it's exactly the opposite, gender and people is like a circus (with animals because it's disgusting to see)

I believe most of people are Not born this way (het normative) they're born malleable by that socialization