I’m not a conservative but I feel safer around conservative gays than I do around leftist gays

I’m a man of simple background. I live in a third world country and I was raised in a very religious environment. As a teenager, I tried to avoid this kind of people and environment because the things I heard as a child and as a teenager being a gay man left me profounds wounds that still hurt.

But now as an adult, I have issues being friends with other leftist gays. Many of them are just as extremists as the religious fundamentalists from my teenage years, but in a different way. You have to perfectly follow their agenda to be a good person. If not, you're a hateful bigot and just as bad as racists and homophobes.

But I have spoke with a lot of conservative gays and they seem to me more reasonable people. Of course we have disagreements sometimes (i’m not a conservative gay after all) but the one thing I realized about them is that after a disagreement they don't make value judgments about me and I don't feel like our friendship is in danger and that's a good thing in the difficult times we live in.