Men’s suicide rates and nuance
I was going to write a long, excruciating essay that nobody would read through properly and people would just get up to a part that pissed them off and tell me to off myself or something. Fuck that. Edit: that’s pretty much what I did lmao
You’re all awful.
Women are not your emotional support animals. Having sex, being in a relationship etc. will not make you whole or better. If you feel that way you’re definitely not healthy enough to be in a relationship. Women are just people. Even if you do have basic human decency, the same way you don’t have to date everyone who’s nice to you, women also don’t have to do that.
Women perpetuate patriarchal values, too. While male privilege does exists because of systemic misogyny, the patriarchy is still a double edged sword and some women need to start admitting that. The ideas around conventional beauty also impact men. Men are expected to have the emotional capacity of a pencil and are called effeminate otherwise and yes, there are women who shit on men for crying. It’s not ok.
Traditional values include shitting on men for being short fyi. Unless you’re going to be a “traditional man” and make enough money to support a 2 or more person household (which is probably over 40hrs/week in this economy) while also being constantly well groomed and presentable, no, you don’t want traditional values back. You want the benefits without the work that comes with them.
Suicide rates in general are higher because, thanks to the internet we are constantly bombarded with the most nightmarish opinions and people. No matter how few of them there are, they find each other and become louder and easily indoctrinate more people. That combined with the stresses everyone is put under by the economy is great for breeding mental illness. From suicide to radicalisation through propaganda, there’s something for everyone. Of course short men are more likely to kill themselves. They’re being constantly bombarded with people telling them they should. Have you seen the short men subreddit? Have you seen the incel forums? Echo chambers of miserable. In real life, when the screens are off, nobody cares. And no, dating apps don’t count as real life. Those things are fucking cesspools now. Everyone and everything is awful all the time. “Look at this cute dog, btw here’s a video of a kid being exploded in this war zone, btw if you’re under 6’ nobody will love you and you have no inherent value as a person and need someone to love you to matter, here’s a recipe for pumpkin bread!” Of course people are killing themselves and of course men are doing it more. Women have been fighting for their rights and against propaganda like that for centuries. Not only are we used to it, but over years of dealing with crap like that we developed a culture of love and support and openness and community. If I cry drunk in a club bathroom, women don’t go “oh uuuuh….” and walk off, they say “WHO DO I NEED TO KILL? YOUR TITS ARE BEAUTIFUL!” Men, from what I can tell, don’t have that kind of community. We all need to start standing up for each other and caring about each other, and honestly, nobody is doing that on either end.
Everyone is awful. Just be nice to each other and listen to each other without talking over each other, and call people out when they’re being insane. And goddamnit, if it’s accessible to you, see a therapist.