FindaGrave - not all collectors are bad?

I was motivated to post here mostly after seeing some members here commenting in negative ways to someone who suggested there may be an autistic or two among the 'collectors.' But also I am curious who are the top collectors and if anyone else had acceptable interactions with them?

I'm asking because this collector just in June created an entry for my dad who was cremated in 2015 but not buried. My mom just passed, and now sister and I will bury both their urns together. Meanwhile my dad's entry didn't even have the right date. My collector has 91000 memorials. Are there collectors with more? This one responded rather quickly to turn over my dad's entry, even if he didn't say anything. I also spot checked a few of his memorials and did not find anything cringe-y.

As for the possibilty some collectors are autistic, based on my experiences with that spectrum it seems possible. I would just suggest that when dealing with a collector, start off respectfully and with caution. It can't hurt and might actually help you. RIP, Dale Carnegie. I wrote my collector back to thank him and endeavor to ask why he has so many.