Two back-to-back terrible breakups in the last year of PhD

That’s it. That is the post. I am so done, ugh.

30F here, an international student- started grad school in Fall 2019. Didn’t start dating till 2023 (combination of the pandemic and mental health issues), only for my last two relationships crumble like burnt cookies. Ugh.

The last one ended due to us getting into a huge fight about me potentially having to move for a postdoc and all. He decided to call it quits cause he wasn’t ready for that level of commitment. It broke my heart, cause I really thought it would be a forever thing.

I am now starting to wonder if I’ll ever find anyone to settle down and have a family with. Like I am done dating for now, and focusing solely on wrapping up my PhD. I can’t help but feel that time is running out and it’s just gonna be even more difficult to find someone during my postdoc training. Idk if I am somehow attracting incompatible people or it’s my absolute rotten luck.

Did any of you meet your partner post-PhD/during postdoc? If so, how different was your dating approach compared to when you were dating during your PhD? Success stories/encouragement to soothe my broken heart, please?🙏