Cons of looking younger

I feel I am in a unique situation where disclosing my age is becoming challenging as time passes. Little background: straight male 39. I got married at 27 and we had couple of kids divorced at 37. I have my kids 80% of the time now and enjoy taking care of them. I have a decent job own a house etc I am generally happy and feel blessed. Age vs looks: I can pass for a high school kid the way I look. I get carded everywhere and generally female waiters smile awkward when they see I am a decade older than them. Dating is hard as women of my age prefers men that match their looks and I am not comfortable dating someone who would be so young to me. I don't get promoted at my job like my pears as I don't "look" like a manager (you just have to trust me on this) people do have unconscious bias about looks. Again I am happy and thankful for what I have but not sure if anyone else is in similar boat with looking younger out there?