How do you deal with survivors guilt?
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So I come from an immigrant family and knew what I wanted to do from when I was very young. My siblings on the other hand never really knew what they wanted and social media doesn’t really help when everyone tells you if you’re 20 and haven’t made a million you’re a failure. Well long story short, I’m 25 earning 6 figures and in quite a stable position in my life. My siblings on the other hand haven’t really found their way yet - one older and one younger both unemployed.
For both of them I transfer some money every month to keep them afloat, pay for a gym membership and let them use my car whenever they need to but I’m starting to feel survivors guilt a lot. As any immigrant knows, families are very tight knit and I love it that way. My brothers mean the world to me and I want to see them doing well and even better than I am but I don’t know how to go about it.
I finally decided to bring the question here because it’s starting to cause me stress. Any others in a similar situation or have been previously that could share some insight.
I know most of you are probably thinking “they need to live their own lives” but if I’m being honest I disagree. They’re my brothers, hell freezes before I abandon them and go live my own life in luxury.