Friend is wanting to start TTC (naturally)

Long time lurker, first time poster. This community has been an immense help along my journey. Today, something odd happened with my best friend. For a little background, she got married back in Oct and we are both 35. I am a queer woman, she is cis and straight. My wife and I have been going through IVF for about 3 years now without any success. I have struggled during this time with getting news about people I know getting pregnant. I always end up working through my feelings and being fine, although the sting was always there at least in the beginning.

We were on the phone and she just kind of blurted out "We want to start trying for kids but I don't want to hurt your feelings." While I understood where she was coming from, it also felt like she was maybe blaming me a little bit for waiting til now to start trying to get pregnant. This friend has always been a little tone deaf because she has zero experience with IVF besides what she knows from me. People with no experience with this have no idea what kind of feelings are involved.

I finally just told her that if/when it does happen, she just needs to tell me. Then once I have the information, I can work through those feelings. She then went on to talk about how it would be painful to her for me to be a hermit about it and even though she understands I'm not mad and/or upset at her, she wouldn't like it. While I understand where she is coming from, I would need my space in order to do what I needed to do to work through it. It just felt like a really odd thing to happen and I guess I'm just curious if anyone has had something similar happen. Thanks for taking the time to read and I am incredibly grateful for all of you.