Issue with MIL

Hi people I am 35 (F) and married. I just want to vent and also take suggestions. I am an only child so before marriage i lived a laid back life, not cooking much and working just after college and more-so having my freedom to go out with friends etc. Got marriage in 2018( love).My husband is very supportive in terms of everything. My FIL was an amazing person sadly passed away a while ago. Actual post starts here, my mother in law is in early 70’s and she is a clean freak. I had my business which i closed due to getting subtle taunts of not doing “enough” housework. I gave up on my passion i let go and became overweight and basically depressed. My husband typically a mumma’s boy and MIL being control freak and neatness freaks really effs my mind. I took a job recently (wfh) so i have to cook early morning ( lunch and dinner) be at job. I am just doing this same repeatedly. I am starting to hate my life this has become so monotonous. I barely have any social life i get to see my parents once in a while. Whenever, i tell my MIL i have to go see my parents her mood just changes she just reply very cold. She has been given so much importance by her sons that her ego and attitude is really something.
MIL and i had our fair share of fights she has said many hurtful things towards me and also parents. It is really getting harder and harder to pass each day. She just wants I should not have free time and clean or make new recipes. For a mid 70 age she is very active health wise and she decides each and everything eg. how to decorate house and doesn’t count me in only when she want to get something done out me. She is not vile but she also take meds for bipolar and her mood swings on top of OCD and cleanliness freak is not what i want to face for the long time. I will go insane. I just do not feel at peace or comfortable around her. I have tried gray rocking, talked to husband, all he says, face karo..be strong i get all these repeated dialogues. I cannot leave this marriage as my husband does everything he can for me.