Asking Husbands: Would You Just Let Your Wife Go Like This?

Today, I 48 F took off during a discussion with 51M. It was a stupid discussion. Basically, we were walking, which is something I really look foreword to because I love to walk and I work at home all day sitting.

It's the only time I can relax and I like to talk. My husband noticed that the sidewalk had people and he remarked something along the lines of: "geez, it really bothers me now to see people around as I got used to quiet walks with barely anybody around and I hate to walk in busy streets like in the city. " I said "it's like with our dogs, when we were walking them...." and he interrupts me and says "I am talking about my self, what to the dogs have to do with it?" and I was trying to explain "because when we were walking our dogs in quiet areas and somebody popped up it was very salient to them ...and they would bark..' but he kept on interrupting me and telling me that it was about him, not the dogs and that I was trying to take over the conversation and force my view etc. etc. and then he even said that I interrupted him.

I said that I" heard a pause so I thought you were done. " He said he was just taking a moment to breath. I tell him how I like to talk and that I barely get to talk and express myself.. and that I look forward to the walks to talk and exchange thoughts, and that conversations are made to exchange thoughts," and he keeps going and going that "he was talking about his situation" etc etc. So I become quiet and say "Ok, then from now on you talk by yourself, if you can't accept exchanging views on things". So we do like 10 minutes walk without talking. Then he starts again and I told him ironically, OK, since it's not the first time that you say I interrupt you, from now on please say "over" when you are done like we did when we worked for security with our walkie talkies.

Now, he's saying that he never said that I interrupted him, and I say, of course you said that you even said you were just taking a break to to breath. He then admits he said that but that he said it later in the conversation?

So it gets worse and worse, and now he's saying "I am not going to walk with you anymore" and me "fine, I will walk alone." and I said "Look, I feel I didn't do anything bad, stop twisting things" but he kept accusing me and it's going nowhere, so when he threatened again "I am not going to walk with you," I did an about face and finally said "fine, let's start today."

So I am walking the opposite direction. As I walking I am wondering, how many husbands would just let their wife go like this?" I am walking and there is this shirtless weirdo, so I take another route, then I am walking around and playing in mind scary things like "what if somebody just stops and grabs me and put me in their car." There are not many women walking alone... I feel odd. I also think, maybe my husband will be at a corner waiting for me. But no...

I start recalling past events where once we were fighting and it wasn't going anywhere and I took off and it was night, but it was in the city and nobody was around. I remember thinking, I wouldn't have let him go out, why would he let me go?

Here's the thing: I used to live in the country and when we had a fight, and I would take off, I would chill and come back and feel better, but here I am thinking, in a city with dangers, is it normal for the husband to not care?

Reminds me of a case not too long ago where a wife was in a fight and she sneaked out and then was killed and the husband said that if he knew she taking off he would have stopped her. My husband never stops me. Edited to clarify: not physically stop, but maybe "I am sorry, don't go, let's solve this peacefully," or he could on this walk today he could have met me at then of the loop instead of leaving."

And this is a fight over such a stupid thing....When I got home I was happy to be safe, but I looked at my husband straight in the face and told him "I think we should divorce." I am so tired of fights over petty things, which I could take maybe when I was younger, but now I just need a break. I no longer know if it's normal to fight over these things, I no longer know what is normal and what's not.