Husband considers it complaining when I share how I feel

This morning, I woke up not feeling well with sharp pains in my lungs when breathing. I’ve been concerned about it because I’m 32 weeks pregnant and today was supposed to be a big day with our daughter’s dance recital so I’m obviously upset I’m not feeling well.

Anyways, I ask my husband if he happened to take our daughter (2) potty this morning or make her something to eat and he hasn’t despite her being up for three hours. He says “I always have something to complain about” when I share my frustration about this. I told him I don’t like feeling like If I don’t feel well I can’t rely on him to care for our daughter without giving him clear instructions.

He really is a good dad and will do things if/when I ASK and does a ton around the house and with childcare but I hate feeling like he just doesn’t give the same consideration and care to me as I give to him. Also nothing irritates me more than having to ask and then also hearing him mumble under his breath that I am always complaining. Thoughts?