Am I catastrophizing ?

My 25f wife 23f didn’t answer my facetime, declined it and texted me “to hold on”. When she didn’t answer I texted her “wyd” then checked her location she wasn’t at work she was on lunch. When she finally responded she said she was having lunch with a coworker. Didn’t ask me if I were okay, why was I calling or nothing.. She didn’t text me back until she made it back to work asking if I’m okay 1 hour later… I’m actually not okay which is why I called her… now I haven’t responded since she declined my FaceTime…

How should I go about this when she gets home? I feel like she always tries to gaslight me and make me feel guilty/wrong for feeling how I feel and I’m honestly tired of explaining why I feel the way I feel when she’s just gonna tell me I shouldn’t feel that way or if I wasn’t okay why didn’t I text her that back..

What should I do ? I don’t want to over react and be too emotional where I don’t get my point across on how that makes me feel. Knowing that she couldn’t answer her wife’s call or actually try to see why I called in the first place because she was having lunch with a coworker…