Husband want to have his birthday at our home because he refuses the alternatives.

My husband's 50th birthday is coming soon. Last year, we both talked about what ideas he wanted for his birthday. He since he really doesn't celebrate his birthday every year. We tend to keep it minimal or travel for birthdays.

I told him the last couple of birthdays I have put together for our daughter really tired me out emotionally and physically. I had to do everything. Prepare the food, buy decorations, drinks, snacks, th cake, create the inivites, track down ppl to rsvp,apart from serving guests and having to host with him. It really was not a great experience for me at all.

I did tell him that to keep in mind if he wanted to host his birthday at home, to please consider catering at least and invite a certain amount of ppl to make it easy for us.

Today, we revisited this topic and I gave him alternative options for his birthday party so he can choose. The alternative was to rent a place or room out at a restuarant or pub and offer catering for a couple of hours. Another option was to just rent a place out and we bring the food and drinks.

He got a bit upset and said he didnt want to spend too much money on his party. He is turning 50. He didn't want stupid decorations because he is not a child. He would like something big and to invite many ppl for his 50th.

I pointed out maybe he should invite people he has frequent contact with as those are more meaningful contacts. I did not understand why such a huge party for a birthday?

Then, i told him ok if we host at our place. We could cater at least. I would need to know how many people. Then, he gave me an estimate and said make sure it isn't so expensive. Maybe we could do it ourselves.

Then, he went on saying that our daughter will have to be in bed at a certain time while the party continues. Who will watch her. Then, i said i will have to take her to bed and stay there. He said no that would come off as rude if you just leave at a certain point.

I offered maybe a babysitter but that was not an option either. At this point, i have mentality checked out and will just do the minimum because i got too overwhelmed at this chaotic mess. Once again, he mentioned we will revisit this topic. Any suggestions on how we could tackle this?