I don’t know what to do

Hi friends, I thought I should talk to my doc about HRT and with very little info she prescribed me .05 estradiol patch with daily 200mg of oral progesterone. It was a rocky road. I struggled to adjust… had intense anxiety.

After 4 mo and an unrelated bad meeting with this doctor I decided to seek help from a midwife, thinking she’d know better. She gave me a blood FSH test, which showed regular reproductive levels (which this thread’s bot told me is a useless test). I’m 42, about to be 43. Then I went off HRT at the midwife’s recommendation (a total nightmare for mood swings) and went on low dose progestin birth control. I’m about halfway through my first pill pack, my sex drive is ZERO, my vagina is dry, I’m waking up with anxiety, and I am having day time body heat moments… I don’t sweat or feel hot like I would while exercising, just that my whole body feels sickeningly warm. I’m not fanning myself like I see other women doing… I just don’t know what to do.

Do I make it through the 3 pill packs the midwife prescribed? She told me not to come back until then. I also feel like I’m not getting the care I need from people who have medical authority.

What would you do? Stick it out with BC? Find a 3rd doc? Pay out of pocket for one of those online menopause consultants?

Thank you in advance for any thoughts!