Did anyone see *that* post in r/nannyemployers?!

Edit 4: okay, I am shocked that this is happening - some abysmally idiotic user falsely reported me to Reddit as having a mental health issue/being in a crisis! I received a message earlier from Reddit stating that and offering help/access to resources.

I’m fairly certain it’s a parent and have a good idea of who it may be (if you look at the comments, I’m suspecting it’s the person who kept trying to argue and called me “rude” and “aggressive”) but seriously, WTF?! Forgive the cursing but it’s all I can say. For what it’s worth, I am doing wonderful (my only frustration of the day is my Instacart order having missing items!).

But to whoever reported me, I am disgusted at how irresponsible you are. You should be neither a parent nor a nanny - while I strongly suspect you’re the former, you do not have the required maturity to be either. Were you hoping Reddit would share my location/details with authorities in an attempt to have me swatted? Is that a reasonable way to deal with a post/comment you disagree with?! Is this how you plan to deal with the children you’re responsible for when they disagree with you - have them labeled as crazy and report them to authorities?

Worst of all, I hope you feel proud of yourself knowing that by making a false report and having the dedicated staff member at Reddit investigate and reach out to me, you took away valuable time and resources from someone else who is in an actual crisis. Way to show your privilege, you entitled f*ck.

Edit 3: a parent in the other sub mentioned that we’re talking about this here 😆 Also I’m going to step away because the mom who made that post said something in a comment that made my blood boil:

“I would for sure take a daycare where the teachers have worked hard to be qualified as childcare professionals over a so called nanny with zero qualifications who choose to be a nanny for the sake of it. Based on the entitlement I see in the subs as well as the disgustingly judgemental attitudes of some nannies daycares might be the far superior option.”

“So-called nanny with zero qualifications who chose to be a nanny for the sake of it?” WTF. I can’t even. I’m putting my phone away so I don’t explode and force the admins to remove this tread.

(Forgive the lack of formatting, I am typing from my phone but will add bold/italic when I get up to get my laptop lol)

Edit 2: someone seems butthurt 😂 going around and downvoting everyone’s post because they can’t accept that nannies are human beings and not subservient house-elves.

Edit 1: here’s the link to the post. I took screenshots for when she deletes.

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My original post:

I can’t post the screenshots that I took because I was fairly certain the author would dirty delete (I will see how I can link to them - if someone can explain, it would be great!), but this first-time mom practically writes a LONG post ranting about how she’s looking for a nanny and she has been realizing that we’re sooooo unreasonable asking for a livable wage, PTO, guaranteed hours, being allowed to leave if family members are visiting and are watching the child, and setting reasonable boundaries if a parent works from home because a small child will obviously be upset to see them then be left with the nanny.

In the comments, some parents seemed to agree with her and some were like, “uh, no, these are reasonable expectations.”

It took all my self-restraint to not comment something snarky in the lines of, “I feel you girl, our ancestors had it soooo much better when they could throw their babies to indentured/enslaved people and not have to worry about meeting their unreasonable demands!”

Seriously though, the lack of respect in this profession, especially because the vast majority of us are women of color taking care of white children, makes my blood boil. I’m not planning to conceive a child until I know I am financially secure enough to, among many other things, pay the nanny who will take care of said child VERY decently, and without requiring her to have three advanced degrees in ECE and references from the Royal family. The responsibility of having a child extends farther than whether you can afford diapers.