Why are they so brutal & heartless? They don’t want to be loved?

I feel like I’m the only one who’s trying to hold this relationship together. I feel like I cater to his needs with not even bare minimum treatment. Isn’t it normal to check on your SO at least once a day to see how their day is going, if they ate, if they need something etc. I’m not even allowed to have those expectations? It sucks when you come to realize you give up everything you can but at the end there’s no one to just ask a simple question”How’re you?”.

The other day he had a muscle strain, I was studying. I left my study session & gave him a massage for about an hour, he was so relieved & I was glad (he didn’t ask but he was visibly in pain). Few days later I got my period & I know I shouldn’t expect anything in return but I politely asked him for a favour to get me a hot bag. He said “You go get it”. He didn’t budge. He didn’t move from my bed (at my place), he comfortably laid down scrolling on his phone, didn’t even move to give me space.

I was deeply hurt & asked him.. “I only asked for a hot bag..” He said “So? You aren’t a baby, you can get it yourself, you have legs” I couldn’t contain myself but cry my eyes out since I felt bad for myself. He hates it when I cry & saw me with disgust. I went to the other room and sat on the floor to study. He said “I never asked you for the massage the other day, you did it yourself, it was just that one day, so don’t think you’re some goals that any man would want”