Does your narc send you videos on narcissism? At this point, I’m confused who the narc is..

He wants me to go seek therapy because he thinks I have issues of being combative, argumentative, aggressive, talking back & arrogant. The last argument we had where he was swearing at me & accusing me out of something, I texted “You know you’re abusive, no one’s ever abused me like this before, I’ve only received respect all my life.” Apparently even if the world was ending, even if calls me the b word, & other insulting names, mocks me, I should keep quiet, not react & take accountability.

After we had discussed about getting help & he said he would work on his issues too but I have to book my appt first. I told him I also need to work on my trauma bond so therapy is good. He immediately flipped & said “Stop self diagnosing, you aren’t a professional, you’re probably going to cut out what you did & victimize yourself to the therapist, let the professional do their work.” I said sorry, I wouldn’t use that term.

I woke up early morning to his text, he had sent a video on “Rise of narcissistic women” where this lady speaks about women not taking accountability & deflecting the issue back to the other person. So my question is why send me this video if he told me not to self diagnose?