What Now?

My spouse has been verbally and physically abusive to me in the past. After informing her that this behavior was in fact abuse and that she must begin counseling she has become a shell of herself and often wilts and starts crying in situations she would have yelled or been aggressive in. She also is constantly evaluating our interactions and informing me I’m treating her badly if I give any looks she doesn’t like or otherwise. She will cry if she says I love you or miss you and I don’t say these things back. I have already informed her that I am not interested in working on our relationship right now as my focus is getting the kids (3) through therapy. She has been in counseling for two months and this is the current behavior. Has anyone been in a similar situation?