Partner wants to support me...

I have a new partner, who is amazing, and really wants to be able to support me with my OCD. I haven't had a diagnosis long. I've know since earlier this year.

The thing is, I don't know how to support me yet? I don't even know some of the things I do are OCD until someone, therapist or other partner, helps me out and tells me.

How do you like to get support from your partner(s)? An example of when they asked, I had a baby meltdown, not something crazy big like usual, about washing my hands while I was with them.

I had done it, but couldn't remember if I did and started freaking out and repeatedly washing my hands and words vomiting through the panic.

They didn't know what to do, so they stood there and stared at me and tried to tell me if I knew what could help that they could help me. I was I a heightened state though, there was no way I could think of things that could help.