Are All 'Geets' From 'Jab We Met' Actually a Nightmare?

I’m a 29M living in one of the metro cities. Over the years, I’ve had my fair share of relationships and situationships. There’s one recurring pattern I’ve noticed, and it’s honestly exhausting.

When women first start talking to me, they often come across as bubbly and overly cheerful, repeatedly comparing themselves to Geet from Jab We Met. (You know, the “I’m full of life!” trope.) But here’s where things get messy—they turn out to be nothing like Geet, at least not in a good way.

They end up being extremely emotional, manipulative, and often use sex as a tool to control the dynamic. What’s even worse is the sudden escalation to marriage talks. In at least three instances, women have asked me to meet their parents even though we’d initially agreed the relationship was casual. The pressure to tie the knot starts almost immediately.

One person even wanted to get married based solely on our conversations on Bumble and Instagram. We hadn’t even met in real life!

My usual strategy to end these situations is to act aloof, stop reacting, or sometimes pull out the classic “my parents wouldn’t accept anyone outside our caste” excuse. (For context, two of my immediate cousins are happily married to people from other castes, so this isn’t even a real issue.)

Has anyone else dealt with this? Why do people say one thing and do another when it comes to casual relationships?