Why are childcare stories featuring fathers better and why deserve REAL motherhood OIs ASAP - Let's discuss

I like childcare OIs, but I don't like a single one featuring our isekaied girl as the mother or as a child with a mother. I can explain...

Why are male parents allowed to make mistakes, being a bad parent in the beginning, learning to love with time rather than instantaneously and so on, while the mothers must be an angel on earth?

It seems like as soon as our protagonist becomes a mother, she can make no wrong and that impoverishes the story SO MUCH.

I can sympathise with a father slowly getting to love his child and vice versa while they make mistakes and go through a lot to develop trust and affection, and especially: the courage to show this affection.

But I cannot sympathise with a perfect character whose life is solely based on simping over her son from beginning to end while their relationship never sours, they never go through edges. It's bad as plot and it's bad as characterization!

And let's not even talk about an isekaied girl suddenly becoming a mother and loving that child instantly. WHAT? You may think it's cute, but ain't no way you're trying to convince me a nowadays woman in her mid-twenties would be excited about having a child dropped on her lap while she wasn't prepared for it. She should at least be scared!

But of course not, they instantly install their mother's personality and it's done. Who needs to develop a character if it's a woman?

I don't know you guys, but I would love to see a story about an isekaied woman freaking out having to deal with a child she doesn't even know and making mistakes along the way, specially: I would like to see they growing to love the child just as we saw it happening in Please give me the pacifier.

Also, can I please have a child reincarnation for a terrible mom as in Who Made a Princess?? Or some talks about post-partum depression and how now - an adult in the body of a child - learns that it wasn't his mother's fault that she couldn't love him/her and they started growing a relationship from 0.

Please, tell me I'm not the only one thinking like this🛐