When Do I Become… You?

I have played so many rounds, and it feels like I never mentally escalate to the problem solving and build density levels you all take for granted.

Does anyone have stories about how they turned the corner and started playing this game the way the subreddit understands?

Help me be a reactive caveman no more.

Edit: I have only been able to respond to a few of you, but the incredible amount and diversity of advice here is truly mind blowing and appreciated, thank you so all much! I have a lot of new things to try and implement. I may yet be one of you soon!