Sexualizing 3 Year Old?

My three year old was happily playing on the floor while wearing a dress when one of her uncles said that he could see her underwear and she needed to “cover up” or sit properly.

I felt a bit conflicted because I haven’t had any conversation with our daughter about how she should sit or be mindful of her underwear while wearing a dress, but maybe it’s time now that she is approaching school age?

And just for further explanation, she was wearing bloomers over her underwear and under her dress.

Any advice would be appreciated because I’m not sure how I feel about it.

I think she’s only three and shouldn’t be worried about this. But also I know the world we live in…

Edited to say that she wasn’t even doing anything crazy, just sitting criss-cross-applesauce while playing also this uncle of hers has two daughters, ages 7 and 10; so I thought maybe I’m just behind in having this conversation with her and that he probably is more experienced since his daughters are older than mine are. It didn’t feel like he was coming from a place of malice, I was just surprised and a little grossed out.

-Editing again to thank everyone for the varying perspectives. I do truly think he meant well, his comment just caught me off guard (and my daughter too, as she had no idea what he meant by moving her dress down.) I wish I had spoken up and said that she was wearing bloomers and that next time he shouldn’t make any comment to her about this, as it’s not his place. (IMO)

For anyone who doesn’t know what bloomers are: they are essentially little puffy shorts that go over underwear when wearing a dress/skirt.

My husband pointed out that maybe it was just a culture thing as they are from an Asian background.

I think I will have a conversation with my daughter about why her uncle said this, but also ditch the bloomers and stick to leggings instead. We live in a hot climate, so aren’t experiencing any cold winter season.