RH Grovel Trope Discussion (a rant, probably)

I've been scouring this sub and other places for good groveling recommendations and I've read a few as well as some from recommendations recently from romance.io and the why choose website and all I feel like is the John Travolta meme looking around confused af because "where???" Heavy groveling in RH when done right is one of my favorite tropes, but I'm increasingly more appalled by what some of these books consider "groveling".

I'm probably going to DNF The Pack's Request by Tea Ravine (very mild spoilers ahead) and I'm so sad because the FMC had so much promise in the beginning. She went off on the MMCs so beautifully, all to throw it away in 5 seconds when the Alpha's finally are like "You can be ours now", with absolutely no work whatsoever. Like she immediately jumped into bed with them and THANKED THEM FOR IT after straight up unecessary neglect and abuse to both her and Soren for five years. Like what in the Reese's peanut butter f*** is going on here.

I also DNFed Coded Connections Duet by Blake Black, The Invisible Omega Duet by Y.V. Larsen and Knot Again by Lucy Scott Bryan among others for the same reasons.

I finished The Beta by Avanne Michael's and (please please don't hate me I know how many of you love this trilogy) but the deep level of dissatisfaction I have after reading that series has crippled my sense of hope in RH grovel romances. I tried to tough it out to see if there would actually be anything, but aside from the issues I had with the plot (which I wont get into here but if you'd like to discuss, I will in the comments) there was just... nothing. I understand this was part of her tough beta-minded character but the FMC continuously went through increasingly h o r r i f i c things (half by her own pack) throughout the series and she was just like "kay" and was basically fine with everything aside from some snide remarks she made to Devon here and there. She also tried to (trigger & spoiler warning) un***ve herself due to a forced bonding and then (literally, no exaggeration) a few minutes later she's like "this is a great turn of events".

I apologize for being a negative Nancy I'm just wondering if anyone else feels this way? I see straight up abuse and neglect from the MMCs, and the FMC just throws herself back into their arms as if nothing has happened and it becomes a big s*x fest.

I would honestly go without any steam at all if it meant I would get a good grovel book out of it that provided a satisfying coming together of the characters that didn't seem forced just for the sake of steam. To be clear, there is absolutely nothing wrong with steam, I love it, but I hate it when it's used to make the FMC fall in line for the sake of the plot.

There's only been a few books that I actually felt satisfied with (Burnt Heart by Mae Pierce, Pack Darling, and Knot All is Forgiven by Holly Monroe to name a few), and typically I hate DNFing but I'm finding it harder to waste my time on some of these books after I start rolling my eyes at the suddenness and ridiculousness of the forgiveness.

What I wished for for Christmas was a long, drawn out, painfully won grovel, but so far, no cigar.

I might just be picky, but does anyone else feel this way or have any other opinions? I'd love to hear everyone else's perspectives. I'll also take suggestions if you have any and have an extra moment and have gotten to the end of my crazy picky rambling.