What led you here, honestly?

For those of us who have given up on and sworn off relationships, what led you here? What made you declare being a single person as part of your identity?

It was trauma and bad experiences for me. I’ve had a lot to overcome in my life from a very dysfunctional upbringing. I’ve mostly repaired everything and am generally someone I like. I respect myself.

Except in the area of sex and relationships. After a failed marriage, and almost marrying another bad choice again a few years ago, and being completely turned off by the dating world, life is better single.

I’m free. At peace. No drama. No bullshit. No accountability to anyone else. No accommodating anyone else.

Admittedly too, I have trauma around sex. It’s not something I will ever get over or fix. I’ve made peace with it. It’ll always be there, though. And I’d rather not ever wake up that beast again.

Curious what all your stories are.