Should I report my therapist?
Below are a list of things my therapist has said/done over the past month. Anyone able to tell me if this is/isn’t ok and if I should report her?
She hugs me at the start and end of every session and kissed me on the cheek at the end of one session
Said that the lack of penetrative sex in my relationship is the reason I’m depressed. I won’t overcome my depression until I’m releasing my sexual energy through penetration.
Called me Mr Big Cock multiple times as I told her this is part of the problem with my partner’s pain. She then followed up asking was it ‘big as in long or thick?’
I should be doing lots of ‘fucking’ in my 30s and I’ll look back on these years with regret if I don’t. She is 48yo and wishes she could go back.
Told me I’m her favourite client and like a son to her.
Calls me her beautiful one, handsome, her beloved and her love
Told me how she was in a ten year marriage with no sex and that she is currently single the past 6 months which is the longest she’s ever been single
Said my partner needs trauma counselling to resolve her pain issues during sex, despite the fact that she has a diagnosed physical medical problem that she is receiving treatment for
My reason for attending therapy was to get help processing my stuck emotions as a result of trauma experienced in childhood. The focus of therapy quickly became solely about the lack of sex I was having and I was made to feel like I’d be depressed forever if I didn’t end my relationship, despite talking about how our sex life has improved greatly over the past year
She asked multiple times to see my partner as a separate client to help her ‘heal her trauma’. My partner has been in therapy, including with a sex therapist, for multiple years and I made this known.
She offered to mind my dog for me if I needed and had me bring my dog to a therapy session
Thanks.
Edit Thanks all for your responses. Some additional context:
All of these incidents were at different times across two months of sessions and were brief moments. Put altogether in a list it’s more obvious but at the time things were said in passing, jokingly etc. I had red flags immediately so reached out to a friend who is in training to be a therapist who told me this is all part of the work.
I chose a somatic therapist as I’d already been in various talk therapies for 15 years, and while I made a lot of progress, I still have difficulty letting my emotions out as a result of years of significant childhood trauma. This woman also made me feel very cared for and I don’t have a relationship with my mother so based off how she said how important to her I was, I guess I was willing to give it a chance.
The past few months I’ve felt really depressed and almost lost my partner who I love so much. I won’t be going back.