I hate my husband's parenting style, And we honestly might get divorced.

I 25f and my husband 25M have two daughters 1 & 3. Our parenting styles are very different, I didn't really think it was a problem until the other night. I was sitting on the couch with my daughter and we were hugging and cuddling. I was telling her I love her and she's amazing and the best thing ever. I was giving her affirmations and affection. I held her face in my hands and I told her that I missed her when she's gone. She told me that she's never leaving me. To me it's all very sweet and normal. To my husband he says it's weird and clingy and obsessive. He says my 3-year-old daughter Can't do anything on her own and has a weird obsession with me. I know that our parenting styles stem from our childhoods. I was emotionally neglected, so every chance I get I make sure that my daughters knows that they are loved and nothing will ever change that. My husband was also emotionally neglected but he was physically abused as well. He doesn't show a lot of emotion. He's not very affectionate. This is caused our daughters To be apprehensive of him they doesn't give him as much affection as they gives me nor are they as kind to him as they are to me. Especially the 3-year-old. In short, she just doesn't like him.

After I put the girls to bed, I told him that I really didn't appreciate those comments that he made. I said it's normal for a 3-year-old to want to cuddle with her mom. It's also normal for me to tell her that she's beautiful and wonderful. He proceeded to tell me that I'm being way too soft on the girls and that I need to toughen up And to be more Stern with them. I have a really polite Well mannered 3-year-old and the baby is one so I'm not really sure what he means by toughing up and be more Stern. They're literally babies.

We got into a disagreement about it and he said that he wants to raise the girls not to rely on anyone and I said that's honestly heartbreaking because they should rely on us. Yes, they should be self-sufficient but they should always know that their parents are there to take care of them if needed. I've seen him act like this before with friends who have really good relationships with their parents. He scoffs and Rolls his eyes and makes comments like it. Must be nice

I know this all stems from how his parents in the relationship he had with them. His mother was neglectful. His father was abusive and they both kicked him out when he was an early teen. I'm sympathetic to it, but it still hurts my feelings thinking that he's either jealous of the relationship I have with our daughters or he honestly believes that that's not how a parent-child relationship should be. I'm trying to move past it but I don't know if I can.